Every couple has important discussions with different points of view. Intense talks often break down because one or both parties engage in thinking patterns and arguments that are unfair, biased, inaccurate or illogical. This very useful summary by Eastern Washington University can help you identify where your discussion might be going wrong and help get you back on track to a fair, positive, constructive exchange. For example: Polarized thinking can lead us to incorrectly frame our discussion as right vs. wrong, me vs. you, when there might be truth on both sides. Blaming, Shoulds, Personalization, Mind Reading, and Catastrophizing are among the 15 forms of cognitive distortion that can undermine a productive conversation.
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